Basics to help you with prayer

Prayer help

Are you struggling with prayer ? Does prayer seem like an exercise in eloquent speech that you just don’t possess?

Prayer is not a mysterious practice reserved only for Pastors and the religiously devout. Prayer is simply communicating with God – listening and talking to him. Believers can pray from the heart, freely, spontaneously, and in their own words and language. If prayer is a difficult area for you, learn these basics principles of prayer and how to apply them in your life.

What Does the Bible Say About Prayer?

The Bible has a lot to say about prayer. The first mention of prayer is found in :

Genesis 4:26
To Seth, to him also a son was born; and he called his name Enosh. Then men began to call upon the name of the Lord.

Is there a Correct Posture for Prayer ?

There is no correct or certain posture for prayer. In the Bible people prayed on their knees (1 Kings 8:54), bowing down (Exodus 4:31), on their faces before God (2 Chronicles 20:18; Matthew 26:39), and standing (1 Kings 8:22). You may pray with your eyes opened or closed, quietly or out loud – however you feel most comfortable and least distracted.

Should I Use Eloquent Words?

Our prayers need not be long or impressive in speech.

Matthew 6:7
“And when you are praying, do not use meaningless repetition as the Gentiles do, for they suppose that they will be heard for their many words.

Ecclesiastes 5:2    
Do not be hasty [b]in word or [c]impulsive in thought to bring up a matter in the presence of God. For God is in heaven and you are on the earth; therefore let your words be few.

Why Should I Pray?          

Prayer Develops Our Relationship with God.
If we never speak to our spouse or never listen to anything our spouse might have to say to us, our marriage relationship will quickly deteriorate. It is the same way with God. Prayer -communicating with God—helps us grow closer and more intimately connected with God.

John 15:7
if you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.

The Lord Instructed Us to Pray.
One of the simplest reasons to spend time in prayer is because the Lord instructed us to pray. Pursuing and being obedient is a natural by-product of discipleship.

Matthew 26:41
Keep watching and praying that you may not enter into temptation; the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

What If I Don’t Know How to Pray?      

The Holy Spirit will help you in prayer when you don’t know how to pray.

Romans 8:26-27
In the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words; and He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.


Are There Any Requirements for a Successful Prayer?

The bible teaches us that successful prayers require the following:

A Humble Heart – 2 Chronicles 7:14
and My people [a]who are called by My name humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin and will heal their land.

Wholeheartedness – Jeremiah 29:13
You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.

Righteousness – James 5:16
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

Obedience – 1 John 3:22
And we will receive whatever we request because we obey him and do the things that please him.


Does God Hear and Answer Prayer?

Because of God’s Grace and Love for us, he does hear and answer our prayers. Here are examples of this promise from the Bible.

Psalm 34:17
The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles.

Psalm 91:15
He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honour him.

Luke 11:9

“So I say to you, ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.

Isaiah 58:9

“Then you will call, and the Lord will answer; you will cry, and He will say, ‘Here I am.’ If you remove the yoke from your midst, the pointing of the finger and speaking wickedness,

 Why Are Some Prayers Not Answered?

We need to understand that prayer must be in agreement with God’s divine will. The Bible gives us several reasons or causes for failure in prayer such as disobedience, secret sin, indifference, neglect of mercy, despising the law, blood guiltiness, iniquity, stubbornness, instability or doubt, self-indulgence.


1 Samuel 14:37

Saul inquired of God, “Shall I go down after the Philistines? Will You give them into the hand of Israel?” But He did not answer him on that day.

Psalm 66:18

If I regard wickedness in my heart, The Lord will not hear;

Proverbs 1:28

 “Then they will call on me, but I will not answer; They will seek me diligently but they will not find me,

James 4:3

You ask and do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, so that you may spend it on your pleasures.


Should We Pray Alone or with Others? 

God wants us to pray together with other believers.

Matthew 18:19
Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven.

Luke 1:10
And when the time for the burning of incense came, all the assembled worshipers were praying outside.

God also wants us to pray alone and in secret.

Matthew 6:6
But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Mark 1:35
Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.


I trust the above will help in your prayer life. Be committed to praying daily. Start by spending at least 2-3 minutes praying for yourself & your family and as you grow spiritually, you can increase your prayer time. If you are already a prayer warrior, praise The Lord, be encouraged and keep going. A Family that prays together, stays together.